There is a phrase I like very much that says so: when you accept yourself, you get free of the other’s burden to accept. And this is very interesting. You know why? Because it really is a burden you need the acceptance of the other.

You begin to live by the other and do things for the other to see you, to perceive you like what you are doing.
Then two things happen: First, you get the focus of you, who is the real person that needs to be accepted, and that begins to become a burden and you become apprehensive when the other does not return to you with the look, an attention or praise. And you begin to suffer when the other does not return to you with acknowledgment of the acceptance you deserve.

Have you noticed that this is so? And in fact we have already talked about it the other can not do this, he does not know his story, he does not know you enough. And who has to accept is you! And this thing to accept is very interesting.
Sometimes it creates a conflict because when you say “accept me,” it seems that I am approving my faults.

Look, that’s not it. First of all, defect is quality wound and we have already talked about that defect does not exist. What you think is bad about you is something good that has been hurt. Just by understanding you will already make you accept yourself.
Is not it you say like this, “Oh good that I burst into rage, I’m perfect because I burst into rage and punched that person’s face.” Is not it!

If you accept it, “Damn, how much anger do I have inside me because? I must be very hurt and hurt.” That’s okay.
Instead of you mistreating yourself: “what an idiot”, “look what I’ve done”, “what a horrible thing”, “I’m unbearable” … Are you looking and talking like this “how difficult this feeling here knows, it must have a motive. ” “Come here, come here, Leah, I’ll help you.” “I’m on your side.” I assure you that everything starts to change and that is if you accept.

If you accept it, stop being abusive and stop rejecting what you do not like about yourself. It is you to understand that what you do not like is there because something good has been hurt inside you. Because you were shining and someone said like this: this Light is not good.
This generated the hurt, pain, revolt and there made you flourish within you what you consider bad. Do you think that if you continue to mistreat yourself you will end up with what you consider bad? Or is it accepting, in that sense of what I’m talking about? And when you accept things start to change because this love you are giving to yourself does what was hurt if you heal, then my love does so much what the other will find of you, think of you, talk about you or bring it to you. You know who it is!

That’s what you need: to know who you are, to recognize your essence and to have people in your life who have only something to add. Thank you for your love, which delights your affection, welcome in my life, but I do not need you because I have me! Truth! Fine? That’s it, that’s the way.
Understand that you are much more than you can see now.