We are going to talk about solitude today. The quest for the cure of loneliness that most people put in the other. And you know that often you are with the other, or with others you feel alone anyway, has this happened to you? Of you being sometimes with a lot of people, with a person who loves very much, but then you feel a loneliness.

Because the cure of this loneliness is in you, it is not in the other. It is very good to love, it is very good to be loved, to receive affection, to receive attention, but it is not the responsibility of the other to my joy, my happiness or fill my emptiness.

Because what generates this solitude is an emptiness, and that emptiness is an emptiness of love. And this love is mine, it will never be filled by the other. The love of the other is welcome, it is wonderful, it is very good, but I can not require the other to fill. When I demand it or when I think it comes from the other, I create what we call emotional dependence. And it does not come at all.

Then you are close to the other, feel a relief, talk to you feel a joy, another makes a compliment you say “how cool”. But to be alone in that. As long as you do not fill that inner emptiness with your own love that is the only one capable of nurturing you that emptiness will exist, that loneliness will exist, and you will continue to search the other.

So love yourself, take good care of yourself, treat yourself with love, with affection, and with respect.