We’re going to talk about limits today. And how you can and should define those boundaries. Because there are risks within relationships. I’m not just talking about relationship between the couple, not the whole relationship, professional relationship between friends, family relationships, in a general way. Because? Because you often think like this: I do not want to fight, I want peace.

Then a little thing happened, and you say, “Never mind, I’m not going to fight over it.” Then something small happens. Then you say, “I’m not going to make a fight because of this.” Little by little, there is something small and something else, and another thing, and when you see it, you have a huge thing to solve. Full of little things you can not stand anymore. Gotinhas, and droplets that drip into a glass until this glass overflows. And sometimes you do not understand why that little thing is making you so angry, it’s annoying you so much.

It’s because that little one, is adding up to 100 thousand little things. You imagine that every morning and I stick pins in your arm, every day I stick a pin in your arm, the other day I also stick a pin in the arm, and a pin you say like this: “I will not be annoyed because of a pin. ” I will not get bored because of a pin. And then you have a hundred pins, you know? In your arm, forming a great wound.

Guys, this destroys a lot of relationships. You need to understand, position yourself, and define your boundaries. Because some people are adept at criticizing, hurting and fixing problems with little things every day, every moment, every hour, and it destroys you. Person who plays criticizing you: “It’s fat, there!” Understood? “What awful hair, there!” People who play criticizing little things.

Then you do not like what the other one said. So you say, “Gee, I’m going to make a war here because the other one says my hair is not cool.” Yes, it will make a war, because the other did something you do not like. Limit, we determine. If the other did something that hurt you that you do not like, no matter what size is to come and talk. It’s to be clear, to have clarity.

Relationship only works if you have clarity. And it does not need war, it’s to say, “Look, I do not like that, period.” It’s your limits. It is important, you do not have as the other know your limit, if you do not define. The other will always advance, if you do not define. You need this definition. You need the look of what hurts you, understand? No matter how big it is, believe a hundred small things will destroy you.