We’ll talk about jealousy. One person asked me, but the moment I took the content as a suggestion of the video, I did not get the name of the person, I apologize. But, I know that jealousy is a topic that will help a lot of people. And this person asked me like this: “How long can jealousy affect a relationship?

Guys, look, jealousy is never good. Because? You’re going to say, “Ah, Leia, but it’s as good as the other is jealous of me.” Is it good for whom? For you? For the relationship it is not. It may be that your self-esteem is so low that you need the other to be jealous of you, to make you feel good. And that does not mean it’s good. Jealousy is a feeling that arises from insecurity, from lack of confidence, from one sense of ownership of the other. So, where is jealousy good? It’s never good.

Can it not destroy a relationship? Certainly. In some doses you will be jealous all your life, your partner will be jealous his whole life. And it will never destroy the relationship. In larger doses, it will surely end up destroying. So, when is jealousy harmful? Ever. But the more harmful it is. If the other is not your possession, the other can be with whomever you want, wherever you want and when you want. And you have the freedom not to want to be with the other when you want, either.

“Ah, but the other is leaving me, I live suspicious of him.” Get out. It’s that simple. Now, living hostage for behaviors that are mistreating you is your choice. What the other does is the other. So jealousy comes from your insecurity, from your sense of possession. To think the other is yours. “Ah, so you can betray, Leah?” “That’s not what I’m talking about.” “It does not serve a betrayal relationship to me.” “If the other betrays me, he can follow his life, it’s that simple.

I do not want to, I do not accept. Now, each one is each. But jealousy itself, the other arouses me jealousy, your life will become a hell, relationship an hour will end. You are jealous of each other, the other’s life is going to turn into hell, one hour that relationship will end. Do you see what jealousy does to me? Do you realize where jealousy comes from? Insecurity, lack of confidence, feeling of ownership.

Imagine, then, that you are living your life quietly doing nothing, and the other begins with a crisis of jealousy, where you can not even breathe. Ended. Condemns the relationship. So are you with him. “Ah Leah, but jealousy like the temper …” Whose temper? I assure you that it is possible to be extremely happy within a relationship without any jealousy. With a sense of self-confidence, with no sense of ownership. And the other is there with you, because you have decided to be. He is there with you because he loves you.

He is not with you because he is threatened that you can find out something. Do you understand the difference? Then that’s it. Can jealousy destroy your relationship? No, if it’s a little, no. And it may be until you short, it is not healthy, but it might be that you short. We like a lot of things that are not healthy, right? When does he destroy a relationship? The greater, the more destruction it will bring.