Today we’re going to start with a story I heard and I loved it. The guy was on the doctor complaining to the doctor that the wife was deaf. I still had not heard it suddenly is an old story. But, I found it very meaningful. He goes and complains that the wife is deaf. That he has to talk a lot of times the same things and the wife does not listen. Then the doctor tells him to take a test. Get home and give a distance and speak a phrase to her, approaching to see how far she can hear.

He decides to do it at dinner time, gets 20 meters and asks “What do we have for dinner?” She swims. He approaches 15 feet, “What do we have for dinner?” Anything. 10 meters away from her … “What do we have for dinner?” Anything. Three meters away from her, “What do we have for dinner? Nothing. She says, “Gee, I’ve already told you five times. That’s it, this is it.” Who was deaf was he, thinking she was deaf.

Guys, this is very important. In the same way that we sometimes give power to the other, saying that the other is responsible because we are suffering. In the same way, sometimes we criticize the other and without realizing that the root of all this criticism is in us. Often as a defense mechanism, often as anger, often because we can not look for some defect that we have … We mirror in the other. When you talk here in a mirror, you are not talking only about what the other mirror in you. We also mirror the other.

And we have to look at it with great affection. Because this is often the root of the destruction of various relationships. When you do not have a love. When you do not have a fondness to look at that relationship, a compassion to look at another, you part to criticism. That the other is this, that the other is that, without realizing that sometimes you are hurt. You’re all messed up. And then you’re more sensitive, and whatever the other does you think the other’s problem. This has two issues involved.

First, you play for the other, something that does not belong to him. And second, you stop looking where the question is, which is within you. You need to take care of you. If you think the problem is in the other, you do not look at yourself. You do not take care of you. This wound, this bruise, this pain, this discontent it only grows. Then you get another and another and another, and the problem is always in the other, is it? Is it not that you’re missing you? And discover the incredible things you have, and the things that need to change.

Invest in yourself, have a healthier life. And a better life, a happier life without rejecting what you think is not good. But by accepting and transforming it into a stepping-stone, a much better landing. Because I wish your life would be much better. So open the eye, yes. Open the eye so that the other does not mistreat you, open the eye to take care of and thus also not mistreat the other.