Today we are going to talk about something that destroys many relationships, which is selfishness. There is a huge difference between selfishness and self-esteem. Self-esteem is when you think of yourself with affection, with attention. Selfishness is when you think only about yourself the whole time. There are many relationships that are made so, are built on this basis. He thinks nothing of himself, gives himself away to the other. And the other is only receiving thinking only of himself.

It may sound really cool, but what you will get in the end is nothing. What you will get in the end is a box full of dried and rotten fruits. This is the reality. Because you think you look great, you look wonderful. You think only of yourself, and the other has more is giving and giving, and if you offer to give of yourself, and in the end you have nothing for you. The same thing is when you are in the other role. You give yourself all the time, you think what?

The other only receives and does not give you back, because he thinks that’s what it really has to be. Now pay attention if the other thinks he is the last wafer in the package. Does he think so? Because there’s someone saying to him every day, “you’re the last wafer in the package”. But if you start to love yourself, you can not change the selfishness of the other. Realize? I talked in another video, love is trade balance. That’s why self-esteem nurture relationship to two. And selfishness destroys a two-way relationship. There needs to be a balance.

If you like you, you will not put the other so much into evidence, you will not tell the other whole time “you are the last cookie in the package”. As a result, the other will realize that it is not the last cookie in the package. And that he also has to reciprocate the love that goes to him. Notice, how do you save or destroy the relationship?

You get desperate and stay there giving up all of your time, a hundred percent from time to time, putting yourself in the trash and you’re destroying your relationship, rather than saving or cultivating your relationship. Realize? So, you want a good relationship has to have balance. And this balance includes loving oneself, just loving the other, does not exist. We’ve talked about it a lot here, it’s lack.

And then you lead the other to selfishness. Or you are being led to selfishness if you are the side of the relationship, who only receives and thinks more is what the other has to do. Want to have a good relationship, want to be happy? Balance is giving and receiving. And give yourself too. This is one more item I wanted to bring to you.